If you’re feeling stuck and unsure how to surrender, here are 6 steps that might help:

1. Acknowledge Your Frustration

First, give yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling—whether it’s frustration, fear, or disappointment. Surrender doesn’t mean ignoring these emotions; it means accepting them without letting them control you. Take a deep breath and acknowledge, “I feel stuck, and that’s okay.”

2. Release the Need to Control the Outcome

Let go of the need to control every detail of how things unfold. Trust that there may be forces at play beyond your current understanding. Say to yourself, “I release the need to control this. I trust that the right path will be revealed.” Breathe and relax. Try practicing the serenity prayer to shift your energy (see lower down in the post) 

3. Focus on What You Can Control

While surrender involves letting go, it doesn’t mean inaction. Focus on what is within your power right now. Can you take a small step forward today, even if it’s something unrelated to your goal? Sometimes, shifting your energy can create movement where there was none before. 

4. Stay Open to New Possibilities

Surrendering means remaining open to the idea that things might unfold differently than you expected. Ask yourself, “What am I not seeing? Is there another way this could work out that I haven’t considered?” Meditate with Archeia Serenity to help turn your fears into possibilities (see lower down in the post) 

5. Trust in Divine Timing

Remind yourself that just because something isn’t happening now, doesn’t mean it won’t happen. Trust that the universe has a perfect timing for everything, and that your job is to stay aligned with that timing rather than forcing your own.

6. Find Peace in the Present Moment

Lastly, come back to the present. Often, the stress of being stuck comes from living in the future, worrying about what will or won’t happen. Surrender brings you back to the now, where you can find peace, even in the middle of uncertainty.

Surrender, in essence, helps you move from a place of struggle to a place of trust. It allows you to loosen your grip, to stop fighting the current, and to allow life to unfold in ways that might be beyond your current understanding. Even when the road seems blocked, surrender opens you up to new paths, new insights, and new possibilities that can carry you forward. Trust that by surrendering, you are aligning yourself with the flow of life, and that things will unfold in their perfect timing.

The Serenity Prayer is a widely recognised prayer often associated with recovery and personal growth. It is typically attributed to theologian Reinhold Niebuhr.

The prayer emphasises the importance of accepting what we cannot control, finding the courage to change what we can, and developing the wisdom to discern between the two. It serves as a guiding principle for many seeking peace and strength in challenging situations.

I truly believe that the Serenity Prayer was a beautiful gift from the divine, possibly inspired by Archeia Serenity herself. It’s like a gentle nudge reminding us of the power of surrender in our lives. When we say the prayer, we’re not just reciting words; we’re opening ourselves up to a deeper connection with the universe.

Think about it: when we ask for the courage to change the things we can and the wisdom to know the difference, we’re really embracing that balance between action and surrender. It helps us step back and trust that some things are simply out of our hands. Practicing this prayer can become a daily ritual, guiding us to let go of control and find peace when faced with chaos. It’s a warm reminder that it’s okay to pause, breathe, and just be.

In moments of stress or overwhelm, returning to this prayer can be so comforting. It reminds us that we’re supported, that there’s a bigger plan at play, and that surrendering can actually lead us to a more joyful and fulfilling path.

I'm often asked this...and this is my (rather in depth) answer...

Surrender is Not Inaction, It’s Alignment

Surrender doesn’t mean giving up on your goals or sitting back, waiting for the universe to do everything for you. It means aligning your actions with the flow of life and releasing the need to control every outcome. You still take steps toward your goals, but you do so from a place of trust, openness, and responsiveness to divine guidance, rather than fear or control.

Imagine surrender as letting the current of a river carry you, but still paddling your boat when you feel inspired. The key is to trust the current (the universe) but also to listen for those moments when you feel guided to paddle (take action).

Listen for Inspired Action

The difference between action from control and action from surrender is that in surrender, you act when you feel inspired, not when you feel desperate or fearful. Inspired action comes from a place of inner knowing, flow, or excitement. It’s the intuitive nudge that says, “This feels right,” or “This is what I need to do next.”

When you are surrendered, you tune into these nudges and act on them, trusting that they are leading you in the right direction. These actions might not always make logical sense at the moment, but they come with a sense of ease or clarity. Inspired action often feels light or exciting, rather than heavy or pressured, there’s a sense of flow or synchronicity around it—things seem to align or doors open unexpectedly, and it feels aligned with your higher self or greater purpose, rather than driven by fear, ego, or control.

Questions to ask yourself:

• “Does this action feel aligned with my inner wisdom, or am I acting out of fear or frustration?”

• “Am I trying to force something to happen, or does this feel like the natural next step?”

Let Go of Micromanaging the Outcome

One of the biggest traps when pursuing goals is becoming obsessed with the how and the when. Surrender invites you to let go of the need to micromanage every step of the process. You don’t have to know exactly how everything will unfold—you just need to trust that the right steps will appear at the right time.

Surrendering here means that you release your grip on specific outcomes or timelines. You still hold the vision of your goal, but you allow the universe to guide you toward it in ways that may surprise you. The how is often not something we can control, and when we try to force it, we can create resistance or miss out on better opportunities.

How to let go of micromanaging:

• Hold your goal in your mind and heart, but let go of rigid plans or expectations about how it will come to pass.

• Stay open to new possibilities, even if they don’t match your original plan.

• Trust that delays, detours, or changes in the journey are often necessary to align you with something greater.

 Trust Divine Timing

A big part of surrender is trusting that everything is unfolding at the right time. Sometimes, we want to rush the process, but the universe may be orchestrating events, experiences, or growth that we can’t yet see. Surrender means trusting that, even when things seem delayed or blocked, the timing is perfect.

However, divine timing doesn’t mean you do nothing while you wait. You continue to take steps toward your goal, but you trust that the universe will reveal the path as you go. If things feel stuck, it may be a sign to pause, reflect, and recalibrate, rather than pushing through in frustration.

If something isn’t flowing, take a step back and ask, “Is this the right time, or am I pushing too hard?” Trust that if a door isn’t opening right now, there may be something better in store or a lesson you need to learn first. Continue to prepare yourself—personally, spiritually, or practically—so that when the right moment comes, you’re ready to act.

Balance Between Taking Steps and Letting Go

Surrendering doesn’t mean you stop moving forward—it means you move forward with trust instead of control. You do what you can in the present moment and then release your attachment to the outcome. This is a dance between effort and allowing, between doing your part and letting the universe do its part.

You are co-creating with the universe. Your role is to take inspired action, while the universe handles the bigger picture. There’s a rhythm to this—sometimes you’ll be called to act, and other times you’ll be called to step back and trust. Surrender means recognising which moment you’re in and acting accordingly.

Signs it’s time to act:

• You feel clear, excited, or aligned with a specific action.

• Synchronicities appear, opening doors or showing you the way.

• There’s a natural flow to what you’re doing.

Signs it’s time to step back:

• You feel stuck, frustrated, or like you’re forcing something to happen.

• You’re getting blocked at every turn, with no clear solution.

• You feel mentally and emotionally exhausted, trying to control the outcome.

Practice Detachment

Detachment is one of the core principles of surrender. It means you remain committed to your goals but unattached to how or when they manifest. This might feel challenging because we naturally want things to unfold a certain way, but detachment frees you from the stress and pressure of having to control everything.

When you practice detachment, you stay focused on what you can control (your thoughts, actions, and energy), while releasing what you can’t (the timing, the exact outcome, and other people’s actions). This opens space for the universe to move and surprise you with even better results than you could have planned.

After taking action, consciously let go of any expectations about how things should turn out. Affirm that, “I trust the process. I release control and allow the best possible outcome to unfold. Cultivate gratitude and contentment with where you are now, knowing that everything is working for your highest good.

Manifesting your goals while embracing surrender might feel challenging, but it can be a beautiful dance of intention and trust. Here’s a clearer guide on how to practice this, along with examples to illustrate each step.

1. Set Your Intentions Clearly

 Take some quiet time to reflect on what you truly want. Write it down in a journal or create a vision board.
Example: Let’s say you want to attract a new job. Visualise your ideal role, the type of environment you want, and how it feels to be there. Allow yourself to get excited about this vision. Once you’ve captured this intention, let go of controlling every step to get there.

2. Take Inspired Action

Pay attention to moments when you feel a strong urge to act—these are often your intuition nudging you.
Example: If you’re drawn to update your CV or reach out to a former colleague for a chat, follow that impulse. Make sure your actions feel joyful or fulfilling, rather than driven by panic or desperation.

3. Pause When Needed

If you hit a wall or feel exhausted, take a break. Reflect on your feelings and what might be blocking you.
Example: Imagine you’ve sent out several job applications but haven’t received responses. Instead of pushing harder, step back. Take a walk, meditate, or do something you enjoy. This can help you recalibrate and surrender the pressure.

4. Stay Open and Flexible

 Be willing to adapt your goals based on new insights or opportunities.
• Example: If a friend suggests a completely different job opportunity that you hadn’t considered, be open to exploring it. Sometimes the universe has a better plan than we initially envision.

5. Let Go of the Outcome

After taking action, consciously detach from how you think things should unfold. Affirm your trust in the process.
Example: If you’re waiting for interview results, remind yourself that you’ve done your part. You could say, “I trust that the right opportunity will come to me in perfect timing.” Consider writing down your feelings and then sealing them in an envelope as a symbolic gesture of letting go.

6. Celebrate Small Wins and Be Present

Acknowledge and appreciate the small steps you take each day. Practice gratitude regularly.
Example: After submitting an application or having a networking conversation, take a moment to celebrate that achievement. You could treat yourself to your favourite snack or jot down three things you’re grateful for in that moment.

By following these steps, surrender becomes a powerful ally in your manifesting journey. It helps you avoid burnout and frustration while opening space for creativity and divine timing. Remember, it’s all about balancing action with surrender, moving toward your goals with trust and joy, and knowing that you are supported by the universe every step of the way.